Stress

High paying jobs, great facilities, and good posts comes with a downer- Stress. Stress is increasingly ‘the’ cause of this loss of interest in sex. When your body is at home but mind at work, how will you be interested in sex?

The trick- Don’t let work come between you and your partner. Leave your work worries at the office and concentrate on the quality time with your spouse. Take a break and go spend a weekend alone with your partner to revive the lost magic.

When there is rift between the couple and unresolved issues, partners won’t be comfortable in Sex. For women especially, emotional contentment is very important.

The trick- Talk, get the issues cleared. Keeping the issues unresolved won’t help either of you. If both of you are happy, there will no stopping you!

Lack of Sleep

If you are not getting enough sleep you will be working on low energy. Lack of sleep brings in irritability and with fatigue joining in, there is no way you will think of sex.

The trick- Before even thinking about sex, think about your health. At night try taking a warm bath, switching off TV and Computers, turn on the soft music and sleep and when you wake up energized- go for it!

Medication

Medication for your ailments might just be decreasing you sex drive. Are you taking -Blood pressure medications, Antidepressants, Antihistamines, Oral contraceptives, or undergoing Chemotherapy? The medicines might be the cause.

The trick- Contact your Doctor and ask him about the side effects of the medications prescribed and possible alternatives if it does cause low libido.

Menopause

Low sex drive

Pre-menopausal and Menopausal women often experience this dip in interest in sex. Some women may experience an aversion to touch, and intercourse may be painful due to vaginal dryness caused by a drop in estrogen.

The trick- Contact your Gynecologist who might prescribe Hormone replacement drugs to combat it. Use lubricants to ease the dryness.

Body Image

If you are not satisfied with how you look, you would definitely not be very comfortable in sex. Low body image can be result of believing that you need to have a model’s body to be sexy. It can lead to low self esteem.

The trick: if your partner has these feelings, reassure him/her of how sexy you find him. If you are having Body image issues- don’t rely on media created symbols of sexiness. Otherwise all of us would have to have models or superstar’s bodies for healthy sex lives.

Low dopamine levels

Sometimes the problem is not emotional or even work related, it is a physiological cause. Dopamine, a chemical in the brain is related to sexual desire. If there is a dip in the level of dopamine, you lose the urge for sex.

The trick: Consult your doctor who will recommend dopamine stimulating drug.

Remember

Time and patience usually work, so does spending time with your partner, intimacy and reducing stress but when everything fails -contact your sexologist and he will guide you further.

Please do something about it rather than brooding and getting distressed. After all, sex is an important and vital aspect of our life.

As for Rajiv, Stress in the form of the new project he headed, was the reason for his reduced sexual drive. A weekend with his wife on a hill station proved to be the solution… he is now back to the ‘happy go lucky’ self.

Via: Medimanage